CONTRIBUTED // the importance of living like a leader
I recently saw this quote….”When I talk to a manager, I get the feeling that they are important. When I talk to a leader, I get the feeling that I am important.” I have no idea who wrote this but I love it! Having worked with a true leader, I understand just how powerful and true this statement is and what a positive impact behaving as a leader and empowering the people around him has had.
What I love about this quote is that this idea of behaving like a leader can be brought to every relationship, regardless of whether it is with work colleagues or personal relationships. What exactly does that look like? It is about having an interest in others, regardless of who they are or where they fit (or don’t fit) on the “corporate ladder”. It is about letting go of judgement, showing respect and understanding that we are all equals, regardless of your social status, your degrees or how much money you have in the bank. Why is this important? Having successful relationships is a huge key to success in all areas of life. And empowering and validating others also empowers and validates ourselves.
Tips for living like a leader: One of the key things to remember when dealing with others is what we have control of. We do not have control of others or how they behave, think, react or how they perceive life. The only thing we have control over is ourselves.
Here’s the thing, everyone, and I mean EVERYONE, has this deep need to feel validated….that they were seen, heard, and matter. We want to be acknowledged for our hard work, our decisions, our successes, etc. Sometimes though, that need to feel validated can come across to others as a form of competition, judgement, disrespect, even towards our loved ones. The “Keeping up with the Joneses” comes from that need that our lives matter, we are accepted. When we understand what drives people, we can act accordingly….at least once we get out of our own way and deal with our own need for validation. When we feel worthy and comfortable with who we are and what our worth is, then it becomes easier to step back and take an interest in others to make them feel important. So what do you need to do to feel validated and comfortable in your worth?
This post was contributed by Patricia Carr. Patricia is a certified Professional Coach with 4 years of experience supporting women to get to the heart of what they really want in their lives and figuring out how to achieve it. Prior to becoming a coach, Patricia spent 17 years as a Ballroom and Latin Dance Instructor, and has 15 years in the Financial Industry with 3 years in management.
Patricia is also a Member of the International Coach Federation, the leading global organization dedicated to advancing the coaching profession by setting high standards and building a worldwide network of trained coaching professionals. Patricia resides in Ottawa, Ontario with her husband.